people who have family members who are getting old, should make sure that "things" are in order. don't be selfish, or self serving in the mess, just make sure the person is going to be taken care of. don't worry if it hurts someone's feelings. the person who will need the care may never thank you, but if you truly have the person's best interest at heart, nothing should be an issue. no use saving the person's money, if they end up in nursing care, it will be spent anyhow. do what you might not be able to do tomorrow, today. life is short, play hard.
famous last words.